Updated: Sep 22, 2022
How to create your own world of happiness and positivity AND get others to join you! (Hint: Betty White is my hero)!
I may have mentioned that my mother always said, "Wendy you're in your own world!" My response was always something like, "And I like it there." Now mind you, my life has been full of, let's say for sake of positivity - unusual circumstances. Now, that may be why I created Wendy's World at a very early age. It's a bit difficult to describe - well - me. I have this balance between seeing how wonderful life is to how desperate a situation can become. I can absolutely, sometimes annoyingly, find the positive in almost everyone, everything, and anything. That's what Wendy's World is about. Wearing rose colored glasses. People used to be astounded at how I brought the positive out in various situations. Sometimes it would annoy people to the point of saying "Take off your rose colored glasses. Don't you see what's happening here?!" But with those glasses on I get to explore in my own unique way without judgement. Letting people slide when they mess up or act like idiots. Remembering things differently than others, mostly focusing on the good memories and forgetting about the bad.
"Cynic: an idealist whose rose-colored glasses have been removed, snapped in two, and stomped into the ground, immediately improving his vision." -Rick Bayan
I would venture to guess that up until my 30's I lived most of my days in my own world. I was much happier back then. Even though things didn't always go smoothly, when I was in "my world" I definitely handled things in a much better way. I responded to things instead of reacting to things (reminder: this was only when I was in my world mode). As I grew older, little by little Wendy's World got smaller and smaller. During and through my divorce, my rose colored glasses were gone. I began to see the world around me as it was. I began to see the people differently. I began to see that not everyone was who they seemed to be. I became a person whose days were not filled with roses. But if there were any flowers, sometimes they were wilting and sometimes almost dead.
I found my rose colored glasses and began to wear them once again. Somedays they are lost and no matter how hard I look they are undetectable to me. These are the days I have to be extra aware of my thoughts. I must replace my negative thoughts. These are the days when I try to go back to my Wendy's World. The world where I do wear rose colored glasses. The world that I invite people to join me, while I venture on magnificent journeys. If I don't have that world, I will spiral down into the dark realities that surround me. The realities that so many people are broke, hungry, in pain... and so depressed they want to die, but don't tell anyone for fear of judgment. Where so many people focus only on the negative of what's happening. Some people can't even find one thing right with a situation. In this world I become a different person. The light that shines from within me seems to dim or in some cases completely goes out!
"Enjoy life. Accentuate the positive, not the negative. It sounds so trite, but a lot of people will pick out something to complain about, rather than say, 'Hey, that was great!' It's not hard to find great stuff if you look." - Betty White
I don't want to be that person! I want to find peace and happiness. And I will. I will strive for the goal of true happiness by choosing moments and thoughts that bring me joy. I know my true happiness can only be achieved within myself. No one and nothing can do it for me. When I'm in my world I am who I truly am. Happy go lucky sunshine Wendy "Whose tripping down the streets of the city? Smilin' at everybody she sees? Whose reaching out to capture a moment? Everyone knows it's Windy." (Song - Windy by The Association). I once again want to return to the Wendy with too much energy and so much happiness that people think she's on some kind of drug. The Wendy I was born to be.
You had that world at one point. Or maybe you still do. Remember that world? Remember when most of your time was spent just enjoying life. Not worrying about much of anything except how you were going to get your next candy bar. I know we are older now and have responsibilities, but we should never lose sight of that person. That little child inside of us. That carefree, adventurous, curious, excited person is still in there. Don't hide your inner child away. And definitely don't bury it.
When I think of someone who was 99% positive, I think of Betty White. She was a person who always stayed connected with her inner child. Keeping that spark alive kept her young and vibrant. She never stopped being curious, learning, and trying new things. And ALWAYS ALWAYS was true to herself; being herself no matter who was in her audience. This zest for life also kept her a valuable commodity in the ever crazy entertainment business. She was a star 'til the very end and will stay shining bright for decades to come.
AND ONCE AGAIN A FEW TIPS ON HOW TO STAY POSITIVE:
1) MEDITATE EVERY DAY
I can't emphasis this enough! Meditate. Even if you don't think you can (blog coming later!). Take 5 or 10 minutes to Meditate. It's not as hard as you think. I like to use the Insight Timer app or go on YouTube. They are just two of many ways to find exactly what you're looking for.
-- "Don't take yourself too seriously."- Betty White
2) AWARENESS - & CHILL OUT
I know there are times when we need to be serious. But, seriously?! When you find yourself "freaking out" about something, try to calm down. This is where awareness is crucial. Awareness of how you are feeling, why you are feeling that way, and...do you really need to be freaking out? Whenever you become aware of this - STOP and take some slow deep breaths. Just a couple should calm you enought that you can stop racing thoughts. Check to see if there's anything you can do about it. If there is, do it. If not, just try and replace negative thoughts. You could sing, or dance, or whatever it is that takes your mind off of things.
3) FIND THE SILVER LINING
You can always find something good about a situation. Sometimes you have to dig extremely deep. And, you definitely have to have faith. Even in horrible circumstances it is possible. Maybe your car wouldn't start because somebody was looking out for you - GUS (God Universe Source) was keeping you from being in a car crash or worse.
My mom and I were extremely close. I always tried to make sure she had everything she needed, but I wasn't by her side when she left this earth. Unforeseen circumstances caused me to miss out on time with her in the last few months of her life. At first, and seriously only for a moment, this thought devastated me. But, I immediately thought "Is it possible this all happened because if she would have passed while we were still spending every single day together or if I had to watch her slowly suffer due to her COPD and congestive heart failure, I may not have been able to handle it? So many things could've happened to me on a mental, emotional, and even physical level had I had to endure such a loss without preparation.
4) REMEMBER -YOU'RE IN CHARGE OF YOUR THOUGHTS
CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. Being aware of your thoughts, once again, is key. How your day is going is a clue to where your thoughts are roaming. If things seem to be going well, if you seemed to be going with the flow, you are most likely are thinking positive thoughts. When things seem to be out of control. When most things are making you sad or angry. Check your thoughts. They're probably hanging out in the negative zone.
Laugh whenever you have the chance. Watch a funny movie. Call a silly friend. Look at things from a funnier perspective. For instance, and this sounds really dumb, I was washing the dishes and the sponge ”jumped” out of my hands and on to the floor. I started laughing. It may sound kind of cuckoo, but watching the sponge slap on to the floor - water and soap spilling out, made me laugh. It’s not that funny that I should’ve laughed, but I did. In that moment my life seemed a little bit lighter. I could’ve gotten aggravated or even angry that the sponge decided it wanted to be on the floor, but my reaction was to laugh. These are silly stupid moments that don’t seem to matter, but do matter!
Just a few simple reminders to keep yourself happy. You are the only one who can bring you true happiness. "People, places, and things can bring you joy, but only you can bring you true happiness by connecting to your inner being (or G.U.S.)!" -Wendy Ball